Rant on Society, Gender and "Cool Hand Luke"

So it seems to me that the rules of laws and society in the U.S. (and for all I know global culture) that we live make it so that boys get in trouble more then girls. Why is it that when you are a little kid all the things that boys do are the bad things and the things that girls do are socially acceptable? And then when guys become teenagers they begin to fuck up even more by breaking social rules and government laws while being more passive and following rules (like many females) is re-enforced over and over again. In a gender studies book I was reading last year it said that much of the way males define their masculinity was that it was the opposite of femininity. So if girls obey the rule of law and society from when they are born how do you still be a man without disrupting some of those restrictions? I am also wondering how society became the way it is when over the evolution of the human race in most cultures men have been the dominant force, how did society become more accepting to women than men? When did aggression and non conformity give way passivity and cleanliness? This issue has been addressed in many movies and I would like to bring a few of them up. The other day I was watching "Cool Hand Luke" (I don't really want to give away the end so if you haven't seen it and don't want to know skip the next sentence) to me from the very beginning of the movie it was obvious that Paul Newman's character had to die in the end. He was a complete non conformist so something had to happen to him in the end. But why? Cool Hand Luke was made in the 1967 so being different was in but the film makers still knew that there would be consequences. It was the same in "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest" even though that was made in the Seventies. These characters are looked up to by all the other characters in the stories but they cannot survive the very character traits that make them great. I am not sure if I am supposed to want to be McMurphy or Luke or if I am supposed to learn that no one can break that law without paying consequences. In "Fight Club" Edward Norton's character creates Tyler Durden to live out his non-conformist ideas. He himself cannot decide to go against society he need Tyler to lead him there. To me this seems like the current state of the American male. He cannot be aggressive and fight people or even just be a nonconformist so he bottles up a Tyler Durden inside of him and hopes that he will not come out. Because if he does, we all know what will happen.